My Husband Refuses to Take Care of Our 2 Kids Saying He Gets Tired at Work – His Ultimatum Became the Last Straw

I never imagined that marrying a surgeon would lead to a strained family life, but as my husband prioritized his demanding job over our daughters, my father stepped in as the rock we needed, which revealed the deep cracks in our marriage and set us on a path toward unexpected change.

When I married a surgeon, I might have romanticized the profession more than the reality of building a life with someone who is always on call and working extreme shifts. But while I understood that my husband’s job was demanding, I did not expect him to be a negligent father.

Since we have been living together, my husband, David, has shown me that he thinks he’s very important because of his job. He acts like he’s too special to deal with family stuff because he’s always busy and stressed from work. When he’s home, even the happy sounds of our daughters bother him.

At this point, I believe David thinks his job is enough to make him a good husband and father because he fails to see the need to put that same effort into our family. The most painful part is that he does not even see how this affects our daughters.

Luckily, my father has been my rock. He has been here to help. He does a lot for us. He’s the one who’s changed their diapers, taught them to ride a bike, attended their plays and dance recitals, helped with homework, and even dressed as Santa. Dad organizes the Easter egg hunts and hosts the tea parties. My husband has considered himself too important and seems fine to have missed out on all these moments.

Even though my husband doesn’t do much at home, he gets upset that the kids are closer to their grandpa than to him. He doesn’t want to help my dad with money problems, either. Instead, he wants my dad to go away to the countryside even though we have the means to help him.

I think it is even more cruel that he believes that my father deserves to be sent to the countryside when he could not only live comfortably with us but actually build a relationship with his grandchildren.